Rest When You Have To

Sometimes you have to bend and not break. I’ve been sick for most of the week. My fatigue has made it impossible to do everything I usually do. I’ve kept certain habits for my own sanity and sense of forward progress, like early morning writing and eating right. But I’ve avoided strenuous exercise and made myself okay with that. This is part of being flexible. In the past, any change in plans totally freaked me out. Even when friends would change predetermined plans. I really didn’t like it. But I’ve learned to roll with the punches more. You’ve gotta adapt …

Don’t Fear Judgement

Don’t carry yourself with the hypothetical judgements of others ringing in your head. It doesn’t matter what I think of you, or what you think of me. What matters is what we think of ourselves. I’m learning to be more honest about who I am, what I want, what I love. Don’t let anyone–your own negativity included–convince you your truths aren’t worth sharing.  Experience, family and culture have made me afraid to expose these three truths.  1. I am completely devoted to Fernanda. She’s the love of my life. I can’t think of a better person to share my life …

You Never Regret Going All-In

I wrote and worked out with Fernanda today. Ten minutes into the stairmaster, in agony–ten minutes, that was just ten fucking minutes?–I realized something. We should put maximum effort into what we’re doing. Leave it all on the field. Trust the process of hard work, give yourself to what you’re trying to make happen. You grow in those last, sweat-spilling minutes in the gym. You grow when you bust through your block by just writing, writing, writing. Do not quit. On that stairmaster, my mind seriously told me that I should never do the stairmaster again. Your mind, and sometimes …

Happiness Over Pleasure

Most of your decisions fall on one side of happiness vs. pleasure. Example: Going to the gym. Skipping a workout might provide temporary pleasure, but a fitness routine will provide you long-term happiness. I learned this from the first fifty pages or so of The Art of Happiness by The Dalai Lama. Highly recommend it. With this principle in mind, you’ll eat better food, work hard at what you love, treat people with kindness, and lead a better life.

Even When You’re Sore

You still gotta do it. This morning, my legs wouldn’t listen. I couldn’t get up. But I still did what I could, some light cardio at the gym. I still did it. Today, I committed to writing for three one-hour intervals. (I’ve found that I’m more productive in one hour blocks than two or three hour blocks.) I did it. I felt the wave of doubt before I started: Is this story good? Is it believable? Is it worth my time? Am I even good at this? But I still did it. Your body will be sore. Your mind will …