Grief and Growth

There’s a line in Tuesdays with Morrie (which I have not read) that says, “Death ends a life, not a relationship.” It’s very true. I lost my father in May to cancer and it’s hard to deal with sometimes. You’ll probably experience it in your lifetime if you haven’t already, but it’s not something to be afraid of. It can be a huge opportunity for growth and self-discovery. It mirrors lots of other experiences in life. Whenever you’re deeply hurt, you feel the need to withdraw and close up. Grief has taught me that the best response in those situations …

How I Write

I improvise. I try to plan as little as possible. I plan for A to happen, then B to happen, then C to show up and kill D. When I did that, it seemed forced. I love not knowing what’s gonna happen to a character. It’s in the back of my mind all day. I write every day. I do this to keep the story fresh and to keep myself accountable. If I said to myself, “I’m gonna write when I have free time,” I’d never do it. It’s like working out. You have to make time. I sit down …

Make Today Great Again

I didn’t run today. I said I would but when the alarm came around at 5:50am, Fernanda and I did not stir. I just grabbed the phone and moved that sucker up to 7am. And yesterday I ate a bunch of Halloween candy, and the Turkey Trot 5K (on Thanksgiving Day) is coming up in a few weeks. Fernanda and I wanted to run every day of November to be ready. But we didn’t run today. When I did wake up, all the other things I promised I’d do today seemed in doubt too. Novel? Maybe. Homework? Probably not. Eating …

What Are You Gonna Do with That Degree?

In elementary school, I wanted to be a professional wrestler. I saw Shawn Michaels and Triple H fucking people up and being cool and I was like, “Yeah, I wanna do that.” Then in 6th grade, I wanted to be President of the United States. That went on for a few years. Then it was law school. While I figured out which shade of blah I wanted to be, teachers and family looked on with satisfaction. “The boy will figure it out.” But, boom. Novelist. You don’t get much popular support with that one. “You’re gonna do law school first, …