The World Needs Your Best

Don’t let people make you feel bad for living life your way. (Cue Frank Sinatra) Whether it’s about your career or your sexual orientation, ignore the people that try to bring you down. Listen deep down in yourself. Make the choices that you know will make you feel good. Live out your version of success. Do not let people define that for you. We all have people we’re afraid to fail in front of. We’re afraid of giving it our all, failing, and hearing all the I-told-you-so’s from them. Fuck them. You don’t need them. They are literally holding you …

Make Sunday Count

I think the weekends are prime time to get shit done. There are hours upon hours of time on the weekend to do anything. Weekends are huge for me in terms of writing my novel and getting a jump on homework. While I love binge-watching a series, it doesn’t feel right when there’s work I’m avoiding. Everyone can relate. It doesn’t feel right to spend all day doing nothing if you’ve got stuff you wanna make happen. You’ve got goals, and you need to be realistic about what it takes to reach them. If you’ve got packed days during the …

Grief and Growth

There’s a line in Tuesdays with Morrie (which I have not read) that says, “Death ends a life, not a relationship.” It’s very true. I lost my father in May to cancer and it’s hard to deal with sometimes. You’ll probably experience it in your lifetime if you haven’t already, but it’s not something to be afraid of. It can be a huge opportunity for growth and self-discovery. It mirrors lots of other experiences in life. Whenever you’re deeply hurt, you feel the need to withdraw and close up. Grief has taught me that the best response in those situations …

Make Today Great Again

I didn’t run today. I said I would but when the alarm came around at 5:50am, Fernanda and I did not stir. I just grabbed the phone and moved that sucker up to 7am. And yesterday I ate a bunch of Halloween candy, and the Turkey Trot 5K (on Thanksgiving Day) is coming up in a few weeks. Fernanda and I wanted to run every day of November to be ready. But we didn’t run today. When I did wake up, all the other things I promised I’d do today seemed in doubt too. Novel? Maybe. Homework? Probably not. Eating …

What Are You Gonna Do with That Degree?

In elementary school, I wanted to be a professional wrestler. I saw Shawn Michaels and Triple H fucking people up and being cool and I was like, “Yeah, I wanna do that.” Then in 6th grade, I wanted to be President of the United States. That went on for a few years. Then it was law school. While I figured out which shade of blah I wanted to be, teachers and family looked on with satisfaction. “The boy will figure it out.” But, boom. Novelist. You don’t get much popular support with that one. “You’re gonna do law school first, …